Chowrangi

Their is not a single hadith or a single ayah in the Quran that says it is a woman’s job.

The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhe wasallam, never enjoyed coming home to relax in leisure after a hard day at work. His work did not end with his coming home; instead, a new order of engagements and activities commenced. Aisha was once asked, “How was the Prophet’s conduct in his home?” She said, “He was like one of you at home, yet he was most lenient and most generous. His spirits were high at all times, he smiled and joined us in laughter at times. He was ready to give a helping hand to his wives in the ordinary work of the house, he sewed his own clothes and mended his own shoes.

So the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhe wa sallam, showed us that we should deal with our wives with consideration for their sensitive and delicate nature in all things. The same kind and gentle manner prescribed for correcting her should also exist with what we view as her work. We know about the Prophet’s opinion that his work did not end at the doorway to his home. He took the initiative to do whatever needed to be done. This idea is very important today.

Many of us do not realize the amount of effort that goes into keeping the house clean, the children cared for and the meals prepared.

It helps to show your wife that you appreciate her efforts. You may tell her that you appreciate her, but do you show her? When was the last time you did the laundry, ran the vacuum, changed a diaper, provided a home-cooked meal for your family, or gave your wife a day off (while you completed her chores for that day)?

Although active participation in the housework and the care of the children was never a problem for the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhe wasallam, it seems to be inconceivable to many modern men. They feel that housework is beneath them and that if they were to stoop to that level, their peers would see them as weak - perhaps controlled by their wives.

The reality is that Prophet Muhammad, sallallaahu alayhe wasallam, was the ruler of Madinah, Commanding General of the Muslim military, the Imam of the Muslims, their Grand Mufti and Allah’s Khaleel and His Chosen Messenger. Yet all of this status and rank did not detract from his humility or cause him to think that household chores were beneath him.

Find a man who you know to be happy and family-oriented and who speaks highly of his wife. Go and ask him what his wife appreciates most about him. Here you will find your answer. More than likely, this man cares more about the happiness of his family than the opinions of the men around him.

Other posts by Mohammad Yusha

• Do Muslim girls want the same results? - December 1st, 2008
• Destruction of family life in the name of equality - December 1st, 2008
• Sex Craze - November 29th, 2008
• Alcohol Consumption and Export - November 26th, 2008
• Sins affecting education - November 26th, 2008
• Hole in the Soul - November 26th, 2008
• The miserable state of Pakistan - November 25th, 2008
• What is the West doing preaching love and respect for Women - II - November 7th, 2008
• What is the West doing preaching love and respect for Women? - November 6th, 2008
• A letter to the West - November 6th, 2008