Consequences of Masturbation
The body is an amazing thing if used correctly.Your mood and level of happiness is directly effected to how you treat your body. When a person is addicted to masturbation it has a direct effect on their mental health. When a person lacks control in any area of his life he is not as happy as he could be if he was in control of that area. This is especially true with masturbation.
Everyone instinctively feels bad when they misuse the body. Some people choose to ignore these feelings and pretend to be happy when they actually are not since they lack inner peace. Masturbation addiction is the opposite of self-control and instead your body controls you. Whenever your body feels an urge you feel like you have no choice but to do what it wants. This feels enslaving and saps your confidence and your ability to control your life in many aspects. When we set out to do a certain thing or accomplish a specific goal, this gives us confidence in our ability to control our bodies. When we masturbate, confidence is all but gone.
Emotionally, masturbation is devastating. Our bodies were meant to be used for a good purpose and to teach us important lessons so that our character would increase in strength. We were meant to be in control of our bodies and our destinies, not the other way around. We become strong and confident by controlling the body. When we are single that is exactly what we are supposed to do. The most confident and successful people in the world are those who have learned self-control.
When we are married we use our bodies to create a bond of love with deep feelings of care for the other person. It is an act of sharing your feelings for the other person and it produces a union that is never experienced by the lone masturbator. The single person should be in control of their body and life before getting into a marriage otherwise the outcome of the marriage can easily be predicted. Masturbation is an act that makes a person selfish since there is no bond of love and kindness being created. The single person should be in control and be confident as they maintain a hope to create a bond of love with someone in the future. There is nothing more beautiful than two people in control of their bodies and their lives coming together in marriage. That is the marriage that will most likely succeed.
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December 13th, 2009 04:45 GMT
Shakir Lakhani you are not right. Its not right just to see Masturbation from medical view and ignore Islams perspective in this regard.
Masturbation (for both men and women) is haraam (forbidden) in Islam based on the following evidence:
First from the Qur’aan:
Imam Shafi’i stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, – for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors.” 23.5-7 Here the verses are clear in forbidding all illegal sexual acts (including masturbation) except for the wives or that their right hand possess. And whoever seeks beyond that is the transgressor.
“And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty.” 24.33. This verse also clearly orders whoever does not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient in facing temptations (including masturbation) until Allah enriches them of His bounty.
Secondly, from the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him):
Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood said, “We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. So Allah’s Messenger said, “O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power.” Bukhari:5066. The hadeeth orders men who are not able to marry to fast despite the hardship encountered in doing so, and not to masturbate despite the ease with which it can be done.
There are additional evidences that can be cited to support this ruling on masturbation, but due to the limited space we will not go through them here. Allah knows what is best and most correct.
As for curing the habit of masturbation, we recommend the following suggestions:
1) The motive to seek a cure for this problem should be solely following Allah’s orders and fearing His punishment.
2) A permanent and quick cure from this problem lies in marriage as soon as the person is able, as shown in the Prophet’s hadeeth.
3) Keeping oneself busy with what is good for this world and the hereafter is essential in breaking this habit before it becomes second nature after which it is very difficult to rid oneself of it.
4) Lowering the gaze (from looking at forbidden things such as pictures, movies etc.) will help suppress the desire before it leads one to commit the haraam (forbidden). Allah orders men and women to lower their gaze as shown in the following two verses and in the Prophet’s hadeeth (interpretations of the meanings):
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is all-aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.)… ” 24.30-31
Allah’s messenger said: “Do not follow a casual (unintentional) look (at forbidden things) with another look.” Al-Tirmidhi 2777. This is a general instruction by the Prophet to abstain from all that may sexually excite a person because it might lead him/her to commit the haraam (forbidden).
5) Using one’s available leisure time in worshipping Allah and increasing religious knowledge.
6) Being cautious not to develop any of the medical symptoms that may result from masturbation such as weak eyesight, weak nervous system, and/or back pain. More importantly, feeling of guilt and anxiety that can be complicated by missing obligatory prayers because of the need to shower (ghusl) after every incidence of masturbation.
7) Avoiding the illusion that some youth have that masturbation is permissible because it prevents them from committing illegal sexual acts such as fornication or even homosexuality.
9) Following the Prophet’s aforementioned hadeeth and fast when possible because fasting will temper one’s sexual desire and keep it under control. However, one should not overreact and swear by Allah not to return to the act because if one does not honor one’s promise, one would be facing the consequences of not living up to one’s oath to Allah. Also, note that medication to diminish one’s sexual desire is strictly prohibited because it might permanently affect one’s sexual ability.
10) Trying to follow the Prophet’s recommendation concerning the etiquette of getting ready for bed, such as reading well-known supplications, sleeping on the right side, and avoiding sleeping on the belly (the Prophet forbade sleeping on the belly).
11) Striving hard to be patient and chaste, because persistence will eventually, Allah willing, lead to attaining those qualities as second nature, as the Prophet explains in the following hadeeth: “Whoever seeks chastity Allah will make him chaste, and whoever seeks help from none but Allah, He will help him, and whoever is patient He will make it easy for him, and no one has ever been given anything better than patience.” Bukhari:1469.
12) Repenting, asking forgiveness from Allah, doing good deeds, and not losing hope and feeling despair are all prerequisites to curing this problem. Note that losing hope is one of the major sins punishable by Allah.
13) Finally, Allah is the Most Merciful and He always responds to whoever calls on Him. So, asking for Allah’s forgiveness will be accepted, by His will.
And Allah knows what is best and most correct
September 4th, 2008 13:15 GMT
If you find a girl who wants to sleep with you, you will automatically stop doing it. So first find such a girl and marry her (if she insists on it). Good luck!
September 3rd, 2008 17:05 GMT
I have masturbating evrydays since 6 year,now i am 21,i have never been seriously sick since 6 years so i guess i am fine!now i really want to stop,give me some advice.do you think if i have sex it will change something
July 7th, 2008 20:11 GMT
I think Yusha has it pinned down very well. Now it m/b may not affect everyone negatively….but sexually addicted/compulsive persons like myself……m/b is a sure recipe for ruining my relationship and intimacy. I’ve been m/b compulsively for 20 years, 2-3 times a day or more. For ME….it’s been harmful to relationships……real relationships…. Also the more I do it, it feels like the more I have to do it and ultimately I turn into a pleasure addicted robot whose life evolves around it. Some men can do it once in awhile for a release and they’re OK. But with me like me, it has negative long-term effects for sure.
February 26th, 2008 21:56 GMT
Mr.Lakhani i dont have problems believing that. since iv heard such opinions myself
February 22nd, 2008 21:23 GMT
Karim – affects apply to everyone equally
February 22nd, 2008 16:22 GMT
Karim, can you believe that I have met some nuts who think all psychiatrists encouraging masturbation are actually Jewish/Hindu/British/U.S./Shia/Barelvi agents wanting to destroy true Muslims!
February 22nd, 2008 14:56 GMT
masturbation is mainly done by unmarried men. so the marriage wreaking affects of masturabtion really dont apply to them. and masturbation doesnt cause premature ejaculation. inexperience does. people get better at sex with time.